I would like to see a future where doctors understand that they have a wonderful opportunity to limit the harm their patient’s endure, simply by being nice. I believe that Hippocrates was not only talking about physical harm in his oath “First, do no harm”.
She slid elegantly out of her driver’s seat and came to chat with me at my window. I was struck by her beauty. Sigh. Suck in your tummy, Rach. Put on your smile. I wonder how she really is? How she is, really, arrived about two minutes into the conversation, when she revealed that she is facing not one, but two, major health crises.
When a parent is ill, the ability to think flexibly and solve problems becomes even more crucial. Maybe you can’t drive and it poses a significant problem for the family. Or being upright for more than a short time is impossible. Provided you have the financial ability, there are delivery services for things like groceries, you can shop online for the family’s clothing. But what can you do about things like playdates? After school sports practise? Being involved at school? It requires a bit of ingenious thinking. Here are some of the things that we do to help ease the illness burden on our kids.
She was nine years old. And it was only one of the times she had noticed that something was happening for me. I was doubled over on the edge of my bed, wracked with tremors, pushing my terrors for the future away from myself. She came over to me and cradled my head in her arms, shushing me and stroking my hair. “It’s going to be okay… poor Mumma” she murmured.
What if all the things about your identity, the things you knew to be true, aspects of your personality, the things you do, the way you get around, your career, your parenting, your partnering. What if all of those things were compromised, because you got something like the flu and it never, ever went away?
Living with a chronic illness is tough and often limits what we can do. However, despite the things we may no longer be able to do, there are often many things we can still do and the example of a friend of mine makes me want to be better at living with chronic illness. She has made me think more about all the things that we can try to do, to distract, manage, cope with and transcend chronic illnesses.
It has emerged over the last six years of my illness, that there is a way to behave when you go to see a specialist. Given that we don’t live in Utopia and the challenges facing doctors and patients are not about to go away, I have compiled eight points for approaching doctor visits.